About me and about you

I am a down to earth Clinical Psychologist who loves talking about all things sex related. Raised in a family where sex was NOT discussed at all and initially trained in a way that also dismissed the importance of sex I soon realised that sex and sexuality has a huge impact on all areas of our lives. Sex can make us feel great, happy, relaxed and energised but it can also make us feel anxious, disgusting, ashamed and disconnected. My aim is to help you to really understand yourself and your relationship with sex to enable you to have the kind of sex that works for you. I am a great listener and have a knack of knowing exactly what question needs to be asked when to help you to find the answers you need. I aim to help you to feel safe in therapy so that we can quickly get to the root of the issues.

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Now, about you. Maybe you have always had difficulties with sex or it might be a relatively new change that has seemingly happened out of the blue. It might be clear to you why the issue has developed (following a trauma for example) or it might be utterly confusing. If you need a therapist who will be both direct and nurturing with clear boundaries and a good sense of humour it could well be that I am the right person for you to work with. I have the experience and skills to help you to understand yourself, change negative patterns and to move to a place where you are happy and secure with your relationship with sex. 

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If you are looking for a few simple exercises to do at home then I am not the therapist for you. However if you want to dig deep, be brave  and really get to grips with things then give me an email. When I say "dig deep" I'm talking about engaging with ALL the tricks I have learnt during my 20 plus years of working with people like you. We will use imagery exercises  to connect with things from your past and things from your future. I will get you to write letters that we direct in sessions. I know that these things might sound a bit weird but trust me, they are super effective. Above all I will hold your hand and help you connect with your vulnerable side so that we can move you to a place of real strength. 

I have no doubt at all that this journey won't just be about sex and I am confident that you will see improvements in all areas of your life. 

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